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**If you are a girl or woman who is being pressured or threatened into having an abortion, please read this article.

**If you are a guy who is trying to stop an abortion, please read this article. (Some of the info in this article may also help parents or friends who are trying to stop an abortion.)

I see you shaking your head, saying it’s not possible.

But, yes, you can.

You can end abortion.

Abortion is THE injustice of our day. Yes, there are many, many injustices. But how many have claimed – and continue to claim – such a high number of lives? You simply cannot stand by and let this genocide continue. Neither can I.

So let’s be honest. Do I really think you can personally end all abortion? Perhaps. I think that God has possibly chosen one person out there to end abortion. A person like David. A person like William Wilberforce. A person like Queen Esther. Or Moses. Or ______.

I also think it’s possible that God has chosen to use multiple voices of multiple people, all acting together to end abortion.  In fact, I think this is probable. Often, when God’s people care enough to get up off their tails and DO SOMETHING to stop evil, evil stops in its tracks. Many of God’s people – hopefully you and me included – have been doing something to end abortion. And due to the collective efforts of the Body of Christ (and others who don’t know God yet, but are being used by Him), I truly believe this thing is on its way out.

So whether you are THE voice in the wilderness, or whether you are A voice in the wilderness – one of many – keep it up. You are ending abortion.

Remember that one mother who made a different choice, who saved her baby’s life after you talked to her? Yep. You just ended an abortion. Remember that teen who was convinced to be pro-life after you spoke in her class?  Mmm-hmmm.  Remember that young dad who went into the abortion clinic and brought his girlfriend out after you gave him a flyer?  That’s what I’m talking about.

You are ending abortion, one life at a time.

And whether by one life at a time or all at once, abortion will one day end, my friends.

IF YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT ABORTION

Photo from this site, with more info about this little baby.

Photo from this site, with more info about this little baby.

If you’re a woman considering abortion, please consider that you have other options. I know, you’ve probably heard that. But please read on. Abortion – no matter how great it seems in the moment – is a decision with very lasting and painful effects. Read what other women have to say about it! Please at least go to this site, where you will find a helpline, a way to chat online, or a way to email someone who can help you. Or, the site can help you find a pregnancy resource center in your area where you can go for emotional and material support, as well as often a free ultrasound – which you should totally see!

You can also comment on this article – I’ll see it before anyone else does – and I’ll be happy to email you back and help you however I can. Also, please consider that every woman should know the truth about abortion before she ever has one. Go here to see a video (or here – and read the description below the video!). Go here to read about abortion. Please be informed.

A 4-D ultrasound photo of a baby at 8 weeks…check out more photos at this link. Amazing!!

You can also read this article or this one if you’re wondering why not to have an abortion. There are literally at least 101 reasons! At least check it out! Read these incredible stories, from a group that helps pregnant moms. A baby is a baby from the very beginning – her heart is beating at only 21 or 22 days! His brain waves can be read at only 6 weeks! And her little heart is crying out for you – her mother – to love her and give her the precious gift of life. I’m here for you, and so are many others – really. If you’re a dad who needs help, check out this advice article, and feel free to contact me.

Wow.

I watched this video for the first time today.  And may I say that every, single woman out there ought to see this.

Specifically, if you are a mother, if you are pregnant, if you are unsure, insecure, wondering, wandering, wanting to know who you are and how or if you can go on – watch this.

If you find yourself in an unplanned pregnancy, know that you are part of a community of those who can. You are part of a steady stream of women – and even girls – who have gone before you, who have done this. One of the most famous women with an “unplanned pregnancy” is mentioned in this video.  And her Son made history.

Women need to be told these things. We are women. We are strong. We are capable. We are ready. We are able. We are all these things for ourselves and for our children. And, in fact, we were created that way; we were this way in our mothers’ wombs. Why? How can this be? It has all been made possible for us by One Who gave His life that we might live. On the cross, Christ won every battle that ever had been and was ever to be waged. The battles are already over, and they’ve been won.  We must only choose to accept Him and the victories He has won on our behalf.

Because of Him, you can do this. I can do this. We can all do this.  And when we feel weak, when we feel like it’s too much to go on, let us choose to reach out to the people around us who have been given strength for our moment.  Of course, call upon Jesus, and He will be there.  But also, also, call out for the help of the people He has created.

Call here.

Or here.

Here.

Or even here.

If you are in an unplanned pregnancy, a difficult pregnancy, or suffering after an abortion, call those numbers and get the help you need.  Help is within reach.  You are not alone, and you are awesome.

Women – and young girls – choose abortion for many reasons.  All of them are sad, and none are necessary – despite how it may seem.  (Note, please, that saving a woman from an ectopic pregnancy by removing the child or saving her from cancer by using chemotherapy or other such life-saving treatment is not an abortion, even if the baby dies.)

Often, women choose abortion because they are convinced they will be alone if they do not.  They believe that their parents will reject them and throw them out.  They believe their boyfriend or husband will leave them.  They believe their friends will scorn them or make fun of them.  They believe they will become an outcast in their family, at school, or in society.  They fear loneliness and rejection, but in their fear, they do not realize that abortion itself is the ultimate loneliness.

Children are created to be with their mothers (whether the mother is a biological or adopted mother).  Children were never created to be killed.  When a mother kills her child – a very unnatural act – she creates a vacuum in her heart and in her life.  She creates the very loneliness she was attempting to escape.

The following is a writing about a woman who almost chose an abortion, in part, to escape loneliness and the rejection that she believed she would suffer if she kept her child.  This writing reveals her thoughts as she went on to choose life for her daughter.  (If you have participated in an abortion in your past, please consider contacting a local pregnancy resource center or Rachel’s Vineyard for help for post-abortive women and men.)

LIFE CONQUERS MY GREAT ALONENESS

When you showed up on that little stick as a plus sign, I was so unaware. 

I tried to push thoughts of you aside by chatting away to the friend on the other end of my cell phone, but I had no idea you would soon fill my vision entirely.  You found yourself in my womb, and instantly I knew you were a different sort of person than I’d ever met before.  Confident and bold, yet humble and unassuming at the same time.  Little did you know the sway you already held over my trembling heart.

You were what I needed – for all of time – but I refused to let myself see the truth.  Instead, I plodded along in my great aloneness.

Of course, I inwardly cursed myself that I planned to choose my friends, my life, and him over you.  That I would never be free to sit with you over a coffee – or a juice box – across a table, and let you enter my heart.   I used your father as an excuse for what could have been the greatest failure of my life – the failure that would have sentenced me to a great aloneness for the rest of my days.

You may have had no idea of the struggle raging inside me.  Or maybe you knew all along.  But I refused to let you see who I truly was.  I was bound up by society’s ideals and my own sense of pride.  My adamant refusal to risk getting hurt or being told I was wrong – that I didn’t live up the the standards – nearly led me to choose this great aloneness.

Proper manners ordered me to dismiss you cooly, as though you had not already captured my soul.  They ordered me to keep our conversations to the business at hand – ending your life – when what I really wanted was to take your tiny, chubby baby hand in mine, forever.  They whispered in my ear that I was not good enough, that you would not want me as your mother if you knew.  I feared taking a chance that would risk my heart.  I shook my head at the daring ideas racing in my mind.  I rejected courage, and my heart beat in solitary confinement.  But it is I who imprisoned myself in this great aloneness.  But only for a time.

I am not one to give up so easily.  I ride on the wings of hope.  And I am comforted by the power of prayer.  Perhaps my courage has taken its sweet time to surface, but it has come to me at last.  I believe, my child, that you are worth risking my pride, my comfort, my convenience, and even my life as I know it.  And now I am actually willing to act on my belief.

I can only hope that you will reach up your tiny hand, smile at my world – and at my very soul – as you take your first breath on the day of your birth.  Welcome to my world, little daughter.  You are here to stay.

Hope & Faith
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Sometimes quitting sounds so good.  I mean, honestly, do you ever feel like you want to quit?  I know I’ve felt that way.  No matter how much I believe that unborn babies—and all human beings—are worth fighting for, it can seem too hard some days.  It sounds a whole lot easier to just lay down this burden we carry and let another take it up.  It would feel so nice to forget about all the evil we’re trying to stop.

Or would it?  Would we really feel good if we left the voiceless innocent in the dust?  We’re not just fighting for a good cause here.  We’re fighting for people who literally cannot stand up for themselves.  If we go away, they have no hope.  They can never speak up and protect themselves.

We cannot quit.  We cannot end our efforts.  It’s ok to admit discouragement, disappointment, and hardships.  It’s ok to feel overwhelmed.  But it’s not ok to give up or quit.  Too many lives depend on our commitment.

Still, a resigned attitude—Ok, ok, I guess I’m in this to stay because I have to be—isn’t the kind of attitude our movement needs.  Trust me, I’ve questioned exactly what God is doing before.  I’ve wondered why He doesn’t hurry up and end abortion.  But I’ve learned that people blame God for way too many things.  People have a free will; we have a choice.  And sadly, too many people use their choices to keep abortion legal.

I’ve also learned that faith in God and faith in truth prevailing isn’t about expecting a certain outcome exactly when we decide that it’s essential.  True faith is recognizing that God does indeed have a plan.  The victory over death was already won on the cross, centuries ago.  Sometimes God doesn’t ask us to fight to achieve victory.  He asks us to fight as a test of who we really care about and Who we really follow.  He uses us to save lives—whether it be one or countless many—in the process.  And one day, abortion will end.  That is a surety.

I believe we will see abortion end in our lifetime.  I believe we will see death’s doors close and accept no more children.  I believe we will see life valued.  I believe we will see society welcome babies as the precious little ones they are.  I believe there is hope.  I believe in a God Who works miracles.  I believe.

I’d challenge you not to overlook how you truly feel inside about working on the pro-life issue.  If you are rearing to go and out-of-your-mind excited right now, that is AWESOME!!  We need people to feel like that!  If you never get discouraged because you’ve already learned what faith and hope are, hang on to them!

But, if you do occasionally question the length of this battle; if you wonder what will happen one day; if you are asking if you really have the strength to keep trying—examine your heart.  Find out why you are really fighting.  Remind yourself of the truth you believe.  And picture all the nameless unborn children who cannot utter a single sound in their own defense.  I know that you, like me, do not want to leave them behind.

Doubt, discouragement, and hopelessness will attempt to plague most of us.  But we have the choice to reject these monsters and send them back to the pit where they belong.  We can make the choice for hope.  We can choose Hope itself in Christ, Who first came to earth as an unseen unborn Child.  We can choose to believe.  We can choose the attitude of faith.

Doubt sees the obstacles,
Faith sees the way!

Doubt sees the darkest night,
Faith sees the day!

Doubt dreads to take a step,
Faith soars on high!

Doubt questions, “Who believes?”
Faith answers, “I!”

–Author Unknown

 

Baby toesThis morning, I read an excellent article about the effects of abortion on women, men, and other family members.  The author is correct when she recognizes that abortion has a ripple effect.  Not only does it end the life of an innocent human being; it also does major damage to the lives and relationships of many others…the mother, sometimes the father, a friend who encouraged the abortion, parents who were “almost-grandparents”, siblings who lost a brother or sister…the list goes on, as Jane Brennan points out.

I’d encourage you to read her poignant article, sharing her personal experience here:  http://www.crosswalk.com/faith/women/understanding-the-post-abortive-woman-11568765.html

Here is an excerpt of what Jane shares:  “The pain of abortion is a pain many women continue to suffer in isolation or silence. I recently compiled a book of women who have chosen abortion, and in their stories I see the same sorrow, pain, agony and guilt I felt that so often gets unreported amid the jumble of political rhetoric focused on rights. In one story, Marie shares: The despair deepened and turned quickly to depression. I remember sitting in the bathroom during a break at my summer job, seriously considering suicide. I could just take one of these box-cutters from the back room-end it all. Right here. Right now. “

Jane gives hope for healing to women who have already chosen abortion.  And to those who are on the brink of making their choice, she has some thoughts that cannot go unread.  For example:

“Today’s world is all about comfort, it’s all about “me.” Our society has convinced us of the “inconveniences” of life and that we need not endure them. Yet, I and so many others have learned that “inconvenience” builds character and makes us stronger. In fact, these “inconveniences” can even be better for us than the alternative.”

I agree wholeheartedly with Jane that we suffer from a culture of convenience.  Because we are often so busy looking at what we want in the here and now, we forget to have faith for the unseen blessings ahead.  Since we cannot see our unborn child, we choose to believe they must not be a real person.  The women who accidentally see the arms, legs, and heads of their aborted children after abortion are usually devasted for life.  Choosing convenience is weak.  Choosing to break out of our circumstances, even when it seems that we can’t, is a strong choice.  Strong women are built by hard choices that care for others.  Once we are pregnant, we have a duty to care for the small life developing under our heart.  Choosing life may be hard, but it is the best choice for everyone involved…

Here are resources to help women who have already had an abortion and for those who are pregnant and looking for help:

Post-Abortive Women:

Women Needing Help to Continue Their Pregnancies:

Note:  Some of these sites/resources claim that abortion or emergency contraceptives (chemical abortions) are options for women.  I disagree.  It should never be an option for us to intentionally kill an innocent little person.  However, these sites will point you to good resources and help in keeping your baby or choosing adoption.

baby stoner

MOM and BABY (istolethetv via Flickr)

Our children

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Mingi.  In Ethiopia, some members of the Hamer and Karo tribes kill mingi children by leaving them alone in the jungle or drowning them in the river.  Drawn From the Water was an orphanage that worked to save these children until they were shut down by an Ethiopian insider who betrayed them.  How does a child become mingi?  Among other ways, by being born a twin…

Missionary Mary Slessor, affectionately known as the “White Queen of Calabar” went to Nigeria in the late 19th century.  She adopted many Nigerian children who were sentenced to die.  Why were they sentenced to die?  Because they were twins…

Throughout ancient history, and in many cultures, twins have been considered bad luck.  Kings would sometimes kill one son so that the other would be free to reign.  Parents would kill one child or give her to a local orphanage so that the “devil’s child” would not remain in their family.  All because these children were twins…

I would estimate that 99.9% of Americans reading this would be shocked with horror.  Why in the world would we kill an innocent baby simply because he or she is a twin?  Well, apparently, a rising trend in America is to kill twins.  In our “modern society”, many women have a selective abortion if they are pregnant with twins or other multiples.  They simply choose which child they want to keep and kill the rest–kill the rest inside the mother’s womb, while the “chosen” child sits and watches his brother or sister be murdered.  Creepy visual, I know, but that’s exactly what happens.

And do we really think the “chosen” child is going to grow up a secure, emotionally healthy individual?  I highly doubt it.  If my parents had killed my twin, I’d personally wonder what I could do someday that would possibly make them want to kill me.  What if they have a younger child later on that they like better?  What if I somehow become inconvenient to their lifestyle?

Be SURE to read this newsbreaking article yourself.  You can find it in the  August 14, 2011 edition of The New York Times Magazine’s cover story, “The Two-Minus-One Pregnancy.”  Go here http://www.christianpost.com/news/this-isnt-meddling-its-murder-54062/ for selected portions of the article and an explanation.

I also HIGHLY recommend reading this blog post:  http://prolifeintn.blogspot.com/2011/08/has-abortion-industry-finally-jumped.html.

What are we going to do to stop the rising genocide of twins in America?  What are you going to do?  And how is killing a twin any different from killing any other innocent child?

1926 US advertisement. "Birth Control"

Image via Wikipedia. This is a pamphlet that Margaret Sanger, founder of Planned Parenthood, used to pass around. The resources she recommended were full of lies for women–not different at all from the Planned Parenthood of today.

Every single life is incredibly valuable…every single baby deserves a chance to live–especially yours. –Anonymous

*A number of my readers come here looking for info on abortion – perhaps because they’re thinking about having one, wondering how to have one, being pressured into having one, or trying to stop one. If this is you, please feel free to go to the end of my article to the section “If you are thinking about abortion.”

**If you want information on Mirena or IUD’s go here.

If not, keep reading. =)

I’ve been asked many times about my stand on birth control.  My stand is very simple:  Birth control is a personal choice that every couple needs to make for themselves…unless they are using a method that kills their child.  That, of course, would be the same as abortion (with the exception that I don’t think a lot of people know what they’re doing).

While I’d never claim to be an expert on birth control, I have done research on the Birth Control Pill since it’s so commonplace and accepted, even by many pro-lifers.  There are at least five problems I see with it.

1)  What is a Pregnancy, Really?

It’s claimed (even by the Pill itself) that the Pill will not end an existing pregnancy, once a child is conceived.  Any normal person reading that would be free to assume that the Pill, then, does not cause a chemical abortion.  Wait a second, though.  Should we always trust the manufacturer of a “medicine” or any product to give us the full scoop?  In reality, the original definition of pregnancy and conception–and the one we would think still exists–is the beginning of a new human life from the moment of fertilization.  But this is no longer true in the medical community.  In order to provide for the Pill and other such deadly inventions, the medical community changed the definition of pregnancy and conception to the time of implantation, which is 5-10 days AFTER fertilization.  So in other words, your baby is currently not considered alive until 5-10 days after he or she really is alive.  Weird.  And wrong.  And all so the medical community and the Pill manufacturers can claim that the Pill doesn’t end a pregnancy.  Well, here’s the real truth…it actually can and does.  It ends pregnancies before implantation–before you even know the baby exists.

2) It’s the Last Resort…But It Still Happens

There are three purposes behind the Birth Control Pill.  First, the Pill tries to prevent ovulation.  This is it’s first line of “defense”, so to speak, against getting pregnant.  Secondly, the Pill thickens the mucus around the cervix so it’s harder for sperm to reach any eggs that have been released.  Finally…and here’s the Catch 22…the Pill acts to strip the lining of the uterus so no pregnancies (or babies, really!) can attach.  So, if you read anywhere about the purpose of the Birth Control Pill, you’ll see that it’s last resort is to strip a woman’s lining so a baby cannot live in her womb.  I’d certainly call that a chemical abortion because a baby can be created while a woman is on the Birth Control Pill.

3)  What the Doctors Say

I go to a pro-life OB-GYN.  I asked her about the Birth Control Pill and whether or not it ever caused abortions.  Her answer was that, if it did, it was rare so she would prescribe it anyway.     Really?!  Is that really ok?  Is that really a pro-life stance?  This has the chance of killing your child, but it would be rare, so go ahead and do it anyway.  I don’t think so.  In addition, there are several very good pro-life women’s doctors who flatly refuse to prescribe the Birth Control Pill, like Dr. Walt Larimore.  Ask them why they refuse.

4)  What Planned Parenthood Says

First, Planned Parenthood claimed that the Birth Control Pill did not cause chemical abortions.  Now, they claim that if the unborn child is called a person in the law, all birth control–specifically including the Birth Control Pill–will be outlawed.  Hmm…make up your mind please.  When it was convenient for Planned Parenthood to claim that the Pill didn’t cause abortions, they claimed it so that women would believe them and get hooked.  But when Personhood Amendments were brought forward in various states, and the unborn child was about to be called a person in law, the truth came out!  The Birth Control Pill really DOES cause abortions, or it would never need to be outlawed by a law in favor of unborn children’s personhood.

5)  Miscarriages and Women’s Health

Besides the fact that the Birth Control Pill can and does cause abortions, I have yet another personal reason why I don’t use it.  The Pill affects women’s health…quite drastically at times.  The biggest detriment I can see is that the Pill specifically works to strip the lining of a woman’s uterus.  That’s why doctors usually tell women on the Pill to wait a while after getting off the Pill before getting pregnant.  Since your lining is stripped, a baby you want to have may not be able to attach either.  This is why some women have a miscarriage first after getting off the Birth Control Pill.  I think this is such an incredibly sad effect, especially since many women are led to believe that the Birth Control Pill does not cause abortions…

PLEASE READ:

First, I’m not claiming that absolutely everyone who has ever used the Pill has had a chemical abortion.  That could never be proven for a fact.  But I am saying that evidence points to the fact that this could easily occur.  If you are reading this and you are currently on the Birth Control Pill, I’d encourage you to stop now that you know the truth.  The IUD (another common form of birth control) acts in a similar way to the Pill and also causes abortions.  Please study birth control to know which kinds are safe for you and your baby.  I HIGHLY recommend the free book “Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions?” by Randy AlcornAlso, if you never heard this information before, please don’t feel guilty…you didn’t know the truth, and many organizations out there take great care to conceal it.  In addition, not every woman who uses the Pill has a miscarriage before having a baby, so please don’t let that scare you either.  Please just take the truth and apply it!  Save any baby that you can, especially your own!

IF YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT ABORTION

Photo from this site, with more info about this little baby.

Photo from this site, with more info about this little baby.

If you’re a woman considering abortion, please consider that you have other options. I know, you’ve probably heard that. But please read on. Abortion – no matter how great it seems in the moment – is a decision with very lasting and painful effects. Read what other women have to say about it! Please at least go to this site, where you will find a helpline, a way to chat online, or a way to email someone who can help you. Or, the site can help you find a pregnancy resource center in your area where you can go for emotional and material support, as well as often a free ultrasound – which you should totally see!

You can also comment on this article – I’ll see it before anyone else does – and I’ll be happy to email you back and help you however I can. Also, please consider that every woman should know the truth about abortion before she ever has one. Go here to see a video (or here – and read the description below the video!). Go here to read about abortion. Please be informed.

A 4-D ultrasound photo of a baby at 8 weeks…check out more photos at this link. Amazing!!

You can also read this article or this one if you’re wondering why not to have an abortion. There are literally at least 101 reasons! At least check it out! Read these incredible stories, from a group that helps pregnant moms. A baby is a baby from the very beginning – her heart is beating at only 21 or 22 days! His brain waves can be read at only 6 weeks! And her little heart is crying out for you – her mother – to love her and give her the precious gift of life. I’m here for you, and so are many others – really. If you’re a dad who needs help, check out this advice article, and feel free to contact me.

**If you are a girl or woman who is being pressured or threatened into having an abortion, please read this article.

**If you are a guy who is trying to stop an abortion, please read this article. (Some of the info in this article may also help parents or friends who are trying to stop an abortion.)

Prevention Park, is the largest Planned Parent...

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Seriously, 33% of their income comes from tax-payer dollars?  Even though it’s a billion-dollar-a-year corporation?  And 37% of their total profit comes from abortions?  Although they claim to be a “non-profit” they still make quite an income.  Wow…don’t you think we should continue to spend our hard-earned dollars supporting this abortion giant, who, by the way, does not perform mammagrams, despite everyone’s contention that all this tax-payer money is really for “cancer screenings”…

Read on to find the truth about Planned Parenthood. (The following was written by Family Research Council.)

“For over three decades Planned Parenthood, the nation’s largest abortion company, has received billions in taxpayer funds. Despite being a billion-dollar-a-year corporation, Planned Parenthood annually receives $363,200,000 — 33 percent of its income — from “government grants and contracts,” that is, from taxpayer dollars.
With this money, Planned Parenthood claims it performs “benevolent services.” However 97.6 percent of the “services” they provided for pregnant women in 2009 ended in the abortion of the womens’ children, and only 2.4 percent involved prenatal care or adoption referral. Income from abortions constitutes 37 percent of their total profit!
The abortion giant performed fewer than 20,000 other services in its last reporting year — including zero mammograms. All while performing 332,278 abortions. Suddenly, the $363,200,000 a year for “reproductive health care” doesn’t seem like such a bargain for taxpayers, does it?
During these fiscally troubled times, taxpayers should not be subsidizing organizations that perform abortions — especially when they have demonstrated they do not need it. The nonprofit organization had income over expenses of $85,000,000 in 2008, and $63,400,000 in 2009. It reports some offsetting investment losses — but welcome to the club. Its annual budget today exceeds $1 billion. The money would be better served going to Title X recipients who do not have abortion as their central product.
Contact your Senators today, and urge them to stand with you in advancing a responsible culture of life by voting to defund Planned Parenthood.


In mere days the U.S. Senate will vote to defund Planned Parenthood, e-mail them now and urge them to vote YES on defunding this abortion giant! “

**If you are a girl or woman who is being pressured or threatened into having an abortion, please read this article.

**If you are a guy who is trying to stop an abortion, please read this article. (Some of the info in this article may also help parents or friends who are trying to stop an abortion.)

Ok, so I’ve been on the lookout for unusual resources that support a choice for life.  (See, life is a choice, too!)  Resources that are clear, easy-to-understand, and compelling.  I’ve come across this free online book called “101 Reasons NOT to Have an Abortion”  A Girl’s Guide to Informed Choice:  http://www.101girlsguide.com/uploads/101_Reasons_Not_To_Have_An_Abortion_EDITION_4__June_Edition_8x10_format.pdf.

You definitely need to check this one out!!  It’s well researched, well argued, and well thought out.  If you’re already committed to life, this will give you more understanding, truth, and explanations to have under your belt.  Maybe you should print it and pass it on to a girl you know.  Maybe you should forward it in an email to people on your list.  If you’re on the fence, this will explain the issue from many different aspects.  You have nothing to lose by doing your research!  In fact, this book will demonstrate to you the inconsistency of the pro-choice position.

Why, if abortion is so right, should it be “safe, legal, and RARE” in their words?  Why, if abortion is so right, do they agree it’s “tragic”?  Why, if abortion is so right, is it such a “difficult decision”?    Why, if abortion is right, do they say it shouldn’t be used for birth control?  Why, if abortion is right, do girls sometimes cover their bedrooms with pictures of babies after having an abortion?  Sadly, I’ve heard from girls who’ve decided that abortion is the way to go.  The most common reason is “I already have my life planned out.  This isn’t right for me.”  I realize that other girls contemplate other reasons for abortion, but do we really live in such a self-centered society that the life of a baby hinges simply on the fact that “I don’t want it right now.”  What if you replaced the word “it” with “her” or “him”?  It’s easy to dismiss a person when they’re just an “it.”  But when you realize that this little baby is a tiny girl or or a tiny boy, their death becomes a lot more real and a lot more personal.

Wondering if you should read “A Girl’s Guide to Informed Choice?”  Wondering if it’s a good resource for you to print and pass on to a girl you know who’s considering abortion?  Here’s an introductory page from the book itself:

If abortion is right…

If abortion is right…

Then it’s a natural healthcare choice for women.

If abortion is wrong…

Then it’s the destruction of the family, the little child and, ultimately, women.

If abortion is carried out on a female’s body…

Then it’s an elective surgical procedure she should have full control over.

If abortion is carried out on a separate person within her body…

Then it’s a perversion of all we stand for as females and women.

If abortion destroys pregnancy tissue, a potential baby or blood…

Then this is all a lot of fuss about nothing.

If abortion destroys a developing baby, a child of God…

Then it’s no wonder our conscience is pleading “Stop!”

If abortion is morally virtuous…

Then repeat abortions for birth control or sex selection are totally acceptable.

If abortion is not ethical or morally right…

Then it can’t be justified for accidents either.

If abortion is an easy, simple choice with no lasting impact…

Then all those women with Post Abortion Syndrome are faking it.

If abortion is a complex choice with long term consequences…

Then it’s time you read 101 Reasons Not to Have an Abortion: A Girls Guide to Informed Choices!

Disclaimer:  Although I believe this is a great resource and well-argued, I do not agree with all of the author’s language…for example, I do not think that abortion is “still your choice.”  Legally, yes, it is I suppose (unless you believe that Roe v. Wade is unconstitutional, as I do).  But morally, I do not believe it is ever “your choice” to kill another human being…

IF YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT ABORTION

Photo from this site, with more info about this little baby.

Photo from this site, with more info about this little baby.

If you’re a woman considering abortion, please consider that you have other options. I know, you’ve probably heard that. But please read on. Abortion – no matter how great it seems in the moment – is a decision with very lasting and painful effects. Read what other women have to say about it! Please at least go to this site, where you will find a helpline, a way to chat online, or a way to email someone who can help you. Or, the site can help you find a pregnancy resource center in your area where you can go for emotional and material support, as well as often a free ultrasound – which you should totally see!

Maybe you’ll want to check out 10 Reasons Not to Have an Abortion.

You can also comment on this article – I’ll see it before anyone else does – and I’ll be happy to email you back and help you however I can. Also, please consider that every woman should know the truth about abortion before she ever has one. Go here to see a video (or here – and read the description below the video!). Go here to read about abortion. Please be informed.

A 4-D ultrasound photo of a baby at 8 weeks…check out more photos at this link. Amazing!!

You can also read this article or this one if you’re wondering why not to have an abortion. There are literally at least 101 reasons! At least check it out! Read these incredible stories, from a group that helps pregnant moms. A baby is a baby from the very beginning – her heart is beating at only 21 or 22 days! His brain waves can be read at only 6 weeks! And her little heart is crying out for you – her mother – to love her and give her the precious gift of life. I’m here for you, and so are many others – really. If you’re a dad who needs help, check out this advice article, and feel free to contact me.

Newborn child, seconds after birth. The umbili...

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Each of us will likely encounter at least one woman this year who is considering an abortion.  We will probably either be friends with her or she will be the friend of a friend.  As I may have said before, we need to figure out and share creative, personal reasons with people as to why they should not have an abortion.  Of course, a normal, often-heard reason is better than no reason at all!  I’m just encouraging you to get creative, study the truth (like human development in the womb), find ultrasound pictures, do your research, and find stories to share.  Learn to refute commonly-held myths about adoption.  (See link before story below.)  If the woman you know has been raped and is pregnant and you’ve never gone through that situation, try to find someone who has been there and made the right decision.  Get their story or get your friend to talk to them.  You should still personally help your friend see the truth, but try to find people who were once in her position and made the right choice.

Some people wonder…if I tell my friend she shouldn’t have an abortion and try to help her see why not, I’ll just push her away.  No, in all reality, if you tell her the truth with urgency and with love and she rejects you, she’s the one pushing you away.  You did what you could to rescue a baby about a die and a woman who’s life was about to be severely damaged.  If your friend refuses to listen to what you have to say, and you wonder if you should let her parents, husband, boyfriend (or someone else) know about her pregnancy because you know they would help her keep the baby…DO IT.  If you’re worried that your friend will accuse you of going behind her back and betraying her, tell her you love her too much to just sit back and watch her make an irreversible decision to kill her child and hurt herself. 

No woman I know who chose to keep her child has ever regretted it.  So incredibly many regret their abortions.  Take this story for instance, reported in “You Can Stop Injustice” by Human Life Alliance.   (Visit http://www.humanlife.org/stopinjustice.php to download your copy of the full publication which has great info on birth control, breast cancer and abortion, as well as adoption myths that many people falsely believe.)

I WAS 18 AND PREGNANT

I plead, “Please don’t make the same mistake I did.”

Since I had already enlisted in the Air Force, I thought I had to have an abortion in order to make something out of my life.  My best friend drove me to the abortion clinic.  It was like an assembly line.  When the ultrasound was being performed, I asked to see it, but this wasn’t allowed.  So much for “an informed decision.”  Then I asked how far along I was.  I was told I was nine-and-a-half weeks pregnant.  That hit me hard.  I started doubting and wanted to talk to my friend, but I wasn’t allowed to do that either.

When it was my turn, the nurse told me I was going to feel some discomfort, like strong menstrual cramps.  The truth is that the abortion was more pain that I’ve ever felt in my life.  It felt like my insides were literally being sucked out of my body.  Later, I went into shock. 

After the abortion, I tried to make up for it by trying to get pregnant again.  I wanted my baby back, but I never got pregnant again.  I don’t know if I can ever have another baby.  I named my baby.  Later I found out this is part of the grieving process.

Two-and-a-half years later, I ended up in the hospital with bullimia.  I felt that no one had punished me for what I had done, so I was punishing myself.  I was obsessed with women who were pregnant, and my life was in shambles!  I was suffering from post-abortion trauma.  When I was 21 years old, I received help from a woman who was involved with pro-life activism.  I went through a program called “Conquerors.”  Not only did I experience forgiveness, but I was challenged to help others.  I answered the challenge and started sidewalk counseling.

There is a healing process that comes from getting involved in the pro-life movement.  I talk to youth groups and students and share my testimony. 

To them, and to you, I plead, “Please don’t make the same mistake I did.”

~Michelle